Seriously. What is wrong with people these days!? For MONTHS I've been challenging myself to keep my head up, make eye contact and wave at as many people as possible. Say "hello" and "excuse me" when appropriate. Basically, be a better human being. Much to my surprise, it hasn't made me feel more included. Sadly, I feel even more isolated. The response I've received is complete disregard for my existence or disgust that I would even try to have civil engagement with a stranger. You would think I'd just give up. Well, if you really KNEW me, you'd not be surprised to hear that I haven't. I won't.
After all this time, it shocks me EVERY DAY that people don't want to even acknowledge my existence. Last week put an exclamation point on my challenge. I'll assume you are like most people and don't follow my every move so I'll back up. Last week I was in a car accident at the intersection of two fairly heavily trafficked streets in my home town. One street was a through street (the one I was on), the other had a stop sign. I was hit by a woman that clearly has no business driving. I mean who would bolt into an intersection if a SEMI TRUCK is blocking your ENTIRE view from your left. Seriously. Anywho, she hit me and I skidded to a stop while watching my wheel roll down the road. Sad day for my car. I got out of the car to make sure they were okay. We both seemed alright and proceeded to call the police and tow trucks. I've never been in an accident, so I didn't know what to expect at all. The whole process was (and still is) a little unnerving. As I headed to the collision repair shop, the BF asked me if anyone has stopped to see if we were alright or to offer assistance. Not. One. Person. Zero. Zilch. Nada.
NOT ONE F*ING PERSON TOOK 3 SECONDS OUT OF THEIR DAY TO MAKE SURE WE WERE OKAY! I'm still shocked and little pissed (obviously). Sure, it's inconvenient that traffic is delayed and you "had places to go"...like I wasn't on my way to work and had to call someone to cover my shift and my boyfriend, who was 20 minutes away, also working, to come get me.
When did this happen? When did we become so desensitized? When did I become invisible? What has to happen for people to pick their heads up and treat everyone as if they matter. As if they are human. As if they could be your family, friend, co-worker. The thing is, we are. Everyone of us is all those things, to someone. We all matter. I am doing my best to treat others how I would like to be treated, and I refuse to act another way. It sure would make it easier to receive the same respect and acknowledgment occasionally. A little goes a long way people. A little goes a long way.